Did you know that some folks actually keep a written record of the foolish things they did? No? You’re not the only one! I didn’t either until I read Mr. Dale Carnegie’s book, “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living!”
However, Dale informs us at the start of Chapter 22 that he himself had been doing it for many years. He tells us that he did this as a way to keep track of his progress; breaking bad habits and as a means for identifying faults within his own personality.
He explains that highly successful people have a practice of making a self-analysis of their actions regularly (sometimes even daily) to see where they might need to make changes within themselves. He tells us that they do this in order to improve upon the way they interact with others in their environment.
He tells us that self-analysis has helped more than one person gain the upmost respect from their peers and people around them in general. Not because the other folks knew that they were conducting these self-evaluations. The respect came because of the changes they made in the way they treated others, as a result of these evaluations being completed.
Dale explains that if you look at yourself honestly; there’s a good possibility that the majority of the troubles in life you experience are a result of your own actions. He tells us that if we can learn to assess ourselves constructively in an honest fashion; we can improve both socially and emotionally.
End result? We stop creating problems for ourselves and get to have much more fun!
Mr. Carnegie also explains, however, that we should always stop and listen to criticism that is sincere and honest. When criticism is provided in the spirit of kindness and out of caring or respect it is a good thing; not something to be scuffed at. It is the very kind of criticism that can make us go from just being good people to great people.
Granted; the delivery of the criticism may not always be music to our ears. True, too, is the fact that people don’t always say things in a way that is soothing to our ego, either. However, big people tend to look past the lack of eloquent speaking from the messenger. Rather than writing criticism off because of its poor presentation; big people take the time to listen to the message in the context that it is given before deciding what to do with it after they hear it.
Not everyone is out to get us or punish us for daring to exist. There are people out there that really do want to help us along. However, even if the method of delivery is a little rough, maybe it will serve to help us remember it a little better.
Dale says that asking for criticism is a good way to improve upon ourselves and what we do. Some very sharp sales people in this world have done this and benefited from it greatly.
So, even if you feel that you are just fine the way you are; go ahead and take a look. None of us are perfect, “Right?” Well… Ok… Maybe you and I really are. But even for those of us who think we are impeccable; perhaps just a small amount of self-criticism could go a long way towards making our own little worlds a better place anyway?