Dale writes in Chapter 17 of, “How To Stop Worrying And Start Living,” that anyone can capitalize on their strengths and the good that comes their way. However, especially when it comes to worrisome situations, it takes a bit of courage and creativity to profit from them; turning the negative into a positive.
True, writes Mr. Carnegie, we may not be able to turn all of our negatives/lemons into something more positive and useful, like lemonade. But making the move to do so does have its advantages. Firstly; it forces us to look ahead in a more positive manner. Secondly; it triggers the release of creative energy.
Why are these things good? Well… It’s good because the end result is that it helps to banish the worry and stress in our lives. Dale tells us that regardless of our background, no matter how good or bad it may have been in the past, we can use it to our advantage. He points out that people, who have been ill on a regular basis, confined to a wheelchair or have been deaf and/or blind can capitalize on their situations, drawing the positive out of themselves. Someone give Mr. Carnegie a pat on the back for me, ok? He gets it on this one! Yes!
Let’s take blindness for example. As you read this, chances are pretty good that you are thinking, “I couldn’t imagine ever being able to do anything worthwhile as a blind person.” However, the truth is that (and Dale Carnegie recognizes this) blindness can be the very thing that alters our perspective on life. It can alter the way we perceive things in a way that enables us to move forward more steadily and easily. In fact, being differently abled is what can enable someone to move ahead; bringing along with them those who are whole and complete.
Psychological conditions can have a positive effect on a person as well as the rest of society. Some artists would not have created the works they have done, which many of us admire, if they weren’t clinically depressed or perhaps even schizophrenic. Others wouldn’t be noted in history as being the great leaders of all time if they didn’t have a tragic past to draw upon.
In short; the supposed bad things that happen to good people may very well be the thing that benefits us all in a positive way. Of course, this can only happen if the person having the negative experience chooses to work it into a positive one.
So, the next time adversity confronts you, what are you going to do about it? Are you going to lay awake at night worrying yourself sick over it? Are you going to try and fight against it like a little spoiled brat that didn’t get their way?
What? You said you’re going to work on profiting from your losses? You are going to turn the lemons in life into lemonade, right? Awesome!