Here in Chapter 15 of, “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living,” Dale Carnegie tells us that, if we stop and think about it, about ninety percent of the things in our lives are right and ten percent of the things in our lives are wrong. Dale tells us that we have a choice here. He says that we can choose to focus on the ten percent and be unhappy and possibly even work ourselves up to the point where we physically become ill. Or, the other option is that we can be happy about the ninety percent of our lives that is wonderful! Now, “I don’t know about you!” But, “To Me,” being happy about what is right in life really sounds like a cool plan!
Dale tells us, in so many words, that it is the tendency of most people to focus upon what they lack instead of what they have. Few people actually stop to consider the assets they have, including their physical condition or health, and if they realized how rich they truly were they probably wouldn’t give any part of their riches up for all the gold in Fort Knox!
Unfortunately though, it would seem that many folks have to come close to losing their family, friends, business, home, health or nearly die before they learn how to be grateful for the riches they do have, “And live!” Only then do these folks learn to stop focusing on what they lack and show appreciation for what they have.
One way of looking at things in a positive light is by remembering that there is always someone who is worse off than you are. They experience more difficulties, often due to the social and physical challenges they face, as a result of their being differently abled.
As an end result; these folks certainly do have good reason to be bitter. The interesting thing about this, as Dale Carnegie notes, is that many times those who seem worse off because they are a few body parts shy of what society would deem as being normal, are more positive despite the challenges they face do to their condition, than those of us who possess a fully functioning body.
Isn’t it interesting how those we would expect to be focused on lack are not and the ones who have no real reason to be focused so heavily on it are? Can anyone tell me what’s wrong with this picture?
So, what do you think? Do you truly want to stop worrying and start living? Dale Carnegie feels you can. How do you do it? Simple! Dale tells us we need to start getting in the habit of counting our blessings rather than fixating on our troubles and problems. Do you think you can do that?