Are you looking for a way to age more quickly? How about high blood pressure? Do you feel like yours needs to be higher? No? Don’t want any heart trouble either, ha?
Dale Carnegie tells us in Chapter 13 of his book, “How To Stop Worrying And Start Living,” that the above mentioned things can happen to a body when its owner is the vengeful spiteful type. Yup! Seeking revenge can definitely contribute to any lady or gentlemen’s health failing and definite decline in good looks.
But, can we forgive our enemies? Dale Carnegie and Jesus Christ believe we can! It is written in the Bible that we should. Besides, didn’t Jesus himself do enough teaching by example to show that it could be done?
Just imagine how happy your enemies would be if you destroyed your looks and your health because you just had to continue hating them. Who wants to give their enemies that kind of satisfaction?
Personally, I’d rather happily out live all of my enemies while enjoying a good long healthy life. That sounds far more appealing to me for some reason. How about you?
Dale tells us that it was written long ago that sooner or later every person will have to answer for the wrongs they have done. He tells us that the wise person who understands this universal law will make it a point to hate no one and let go of anger for a greater cause.
Mr. Carnegie informs us that we can easily ignore the actions of those who wrong us by getting involved in something that is greater than we are. When involved in a cause that we are passionate about it’s a lot easier to ignore criticisms and general negativity when it is directed our way. This is because our focus is so largely consumed by the love we have for what we are working on, or, have become a part of.
Dale brings out an interesting point, too, which we may want to give some careful consideration. Our enemies are the way they are because of where they came from. If we had lived in their shoes there is a good possibility we’d behave the same way that they do. Therefore we should be grateful that we are not in their shoes. So rather than seek vengeance upon them for their actions Mr. Carnegie suggests we give them our understanding and sympathy for feeling the need to do the things they do. Can you really be upset with someone who does unkind things to you because they don’t know any better?
In short; people are a product of their environment to some extent. True! We all have the ability to know right from wrong, work out our differences in a fair and reasonable manner with one another plus grow as human beings despite our upbringing and background. However, to exact revenge upon our enemies because they haven’t come along the path of life as far as we have will hurt us far more than it will ever hurt them.
No, they didn’t have to do what they did to us. But they did it. It’s in the past and the past can only serve to educate us and prepare us for a more positive and brighter future if we let it. Besides, even though vengeance may be sweet in the near term, the long term effects of getting even are just too high priced of a cost to bear. This is exactly what Mr. Carnegie is driving at in this chapter of, “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living!”