Your existence is what you’re thinking makes it! Yup! That’s right! Those are the eight words! Want to take a guess where Mr. Carnegie is going with this in Part 4 Chapter 12 of his book, How To Stop Worrying And Start Living? Go on! Make your guess! Now read on to see if you were right!
Dale tells us that our thoughts are the very thing that can make or break us as a person! Choosing the right thoughts will determine our attitudes towards life and the quality of it. People who constantly complain about their health tend to repel people when they do so. Positive people tend to attract others because they radiate what is good in positive about life. I can go on and on here and Dale probably could as well. But I think you get the idea.
A person is what they think about all day! What are your most frequent thoughts of the day? Are they of a positive nature or are they more about negative things, the money you don’t have, how much you hate your job, how annoying the people are around you, how the computer is so hard to use, how much you hurt physically, other people expect you to do too much, etcetera. If this is the kind of thinking you engage in on a daily basis let me ask you something, ok? “How’s it working for you?”
Dale tells us that he has seen countless people literally transform their lives because they made the choice to change their thinking from negative to positive. Mr. Carnegie explains, in this chapter of his book, that regardless of the situations we may face in life it is the outcome of these situations that are largely influenced by our thoughts.
Dale explains that we aren’t hurt by the things that happen in life. The pain is created by our opinions of what happens in life. We have the power to choose whether to be hurt and upset by what has happened or we can simply look at the situation calmly; deciding how we want to handle it.
Perhaps, to some, this sounds unrealistic and Pollyanna. But even in the Martial Arts they teach you how to remain calm in even the most life threatening of situations. So, when you stop to think about it, there really is a lot of truth to what is written in this chapter of, “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living.”
Mr. Carnegie does know that it takes a bit more than just making the decision to be happy in order for someone who is unhappy to make it so. He tells us that mental willpower alone will not do it.
Dale explains that we need to act happy in order to be happy. This involves intentionally smiling, relaxing our body and then working to mentally take the positive approach to things. It’s kind of hard to be sad and smile at the same time isn’t it? You think you can? Really now! Prove it! Go ahead and try it! It’s not working for you is it?
So in a nutshell; if you want to change your outlook from the negative to the positive, make the physical effort to exhibit the outward symptoms of feeling good and positive. This will in turn change the feelings you have on the inside from negative to positive as well. How well does this work? The answer to that is entirely up to you! How well do you want it to work?