I think we all know that there are some things in life that just are not going to be changed once they happen. Sometimes we’ve just got to accept that they happen and move along, as unpleasant as these experiences may have been.
If you do not have the power to change something; whining about it isn’t going to help you do anything other than make yourself get upset or sick over what is already permanently done. It doesn’t matter if it is the loss of a body part or something equally as traumatic, if not worse. At some point you’ve just got to accept it as if it were just another part of the scenery in the landscape of life. This is exactly what Dale Carnegie wrote about in Chapter 9 of, “How To Stop Worrying And Start Living!”
In Chapter 9 of, “How To Stop Worrying And Start Living,” we are reminded that Jesus once said that the Kingdom of Heaven is within us. In this chapter Dale Carnegie points out that the Kingdom of Hell is within us, too, and our attitudes towards life will determine which one we spend more time in. I don’t know about you but I like Heaven, Personally speaking, of course!
Dale does recognize, too, that some people are better equipped to deal with accepting the inevitable than others. But he also points out that some people don’t think that they could ever face a situation; noting that these same people find they can if they really have too. The reason they thought they couldn’t before actually doing so? Well… This is because, naturally, they didn’t want to. So they convinced themselves they couldn’t.
When the inevitable turns out to be in the form of becoming disabled (for lack of a better and more positive term) people have found that it isn’t so much the disability that is unbearable. What they have discovered is that their unwillingness to endure the disability which has beset them turns out to be the problem.
What happens to us doesn’t mean our life is over unless it truly is death. Last I checked dead people don’t usually report that they are unable to endure being dead, either, so if you are complaining about the ills that have befallen you then you still have a life.
However, if something happens to you like losing your eyesight, for instance, your life only ends at that point because you choose to believe it does. However, if you accept that you still have a life even though the world is now dark you may just find that you see more clearly, although be it differently, than you did before your sight was gone. If you allow yourself time to adjust and accept that the turn of events regarding the loss of your vision (or any other part of your body for that matter) simply means that you will need to learn to function differently, you may be amazed to find, “You Can!”
Dale tells us that he doesn’t expect that we should bow down to the harshness that reality throws at us. He says that he isn’t promoting that kind of thinking at all. He simply explains how we need to be able to recognize that not everything we are up against can be controlled. Dale tells us here that finding the wisdom to know the difference between what we can control and what we can’t will go a long way towards a better quality of living.
Basically what Mr. Carnegie is saying in a nutshell is that if we learn to accept the things we don’t currently have the power to change and change the things we find that we can; that’s all part of keeping the worry in check in our lives!