In Chapter 2 of, “How To Stop Worrying And Start Living,” Mr. Carnegie tells us of one formula that will help us to banish the aspect of worry from situations we are faced with. He tells us that it’s true that this formula may not work for every type of worry situation out there. However, Dale felt it was a pretty good one worth telling us about all the same.
Keep in mind as you read on to find out about what this formula is; should you decide to give it a go for yourself, it will be most effective for you if you write everything out. “Yes,” you will want to write down what the steps of it are so you have them handy should you want to use them or, better still, work on committing them to memory for use in your daily life.
It is most beneficial to write down the situation that is worrying you; including what you come up with in each part of the three step process about to be shared here. Writing things down helps to organize and solidify thoughts. For many people it helps to write everything out because they now have something they can look at and build upon as they work toward a positive solution. So, even if it seems like a big waste of time at first, “Do it anyway.” You’ll be glad you did!
“Now,” having said all that; let’s get on with talking about the steps in this Magic Formula for Banishing Worry!
Step one; in looking at the situation that is causing you anxiety/worry, relax enough to look closely at the situation as it stands. Then ask yourself what the worst possible outcome will be if the situation that is worrying you gets worse. What? The situation hasn’t happened yet? Ok! No problem! Then write out for yourself what the worst possible outcome of the situation will be if it does come to pass.
I know how hard it can be when you are under a lot of stress but do try not to get carried away here. Do your best to keep things based on actual facts or, at the very least, what you believe the actual facts to be.
Step two; accept that the worst may in fact happen. Acknowledge it as being a very real possibility.
Then, once you’ve accepted it, look at your options in the event that the worst really does arrive on your doorstep of life. Research possible options if you need to. Every action has a reaction. If you don’t have enough knowledge about the situation to determine what your reaction should be, assuming it all really does hit the fan, researching options intelligently is the smarter and healthier way to go. You don’t have to like the options you find. But at least you will feel better because you have an idea of what the true consequences may lead to; all based on fact rather than a nightmare born out of emotional reactions.
Step three; now that you’ve looked at and accepted that the worst may happen, start devoting your time to improving upon what you’ve already accepted the worst can be. You might just find at this stage in the process that you are now calm enough to find a way to keep the worst from happening all together.
If preventing the worst is not an option, at the very least, you will now have written down enough ideas and information based on fact to do some damage control. Yup! It’s true! Should things go south despite your efforts; there’s always the chance that you’ll be able to somewhat salvage the situation by following these three steps we’ve just talked about! Now that’s not a bad thing, is it?